I nearly died this week.
Or maybe I should say I wanted to die this week.
But there wouldn’t be a runaway minivan or a creepy bad guy to blame in on this time.
It was my own cursed sinuses that were the culprit.
I felt a little bit like ripping my own face off, just to release some of the pressure. But, alas, a face comes in handy when completing most household tasks, and, sadly, household tasks still must be completed, even when you are little more than an oozing, shuffling blob of a human being.
Despite wishing my head would just get it over with and explode already, I took Edy on a Mommy Daughter date this week, one night after Josh took Hattie on a Daddy Daughter date.
Hattie’s highlight was the turtle they found on the sidewalk beside the gas station.
Edy’s was petting the stray kitties and watching a hamster go nowhere on a hamster wheel at PetCo.
(We do fancy dates in the Hall house.)
But before you start thinking what fabulously involved and loving parents Josh and I must be, know that approximately one hour prior to Hattie’s date I was a blubbering, pitiful mess.
Because…sniff…we are…snort…failing our children! (Nose blow.)
Somewhere between six months to a year ago (and then about another year prior to that and then a few years before that one and then again somewhere around the time when Edy was born five and half years ago) we had solemnly vowed that we would be intentional about our parenting.
We would schedule individual monthly dates with our children so that they would know they were each one special and cherished.
We would discipline with love, grace and wisdom, and, as a result, our precious babies would joyfully listen and obey the first time every time.
We would faithfully date each other, and there would never be any doubt that our spouse came even before our children in importance to us.
But we sure had good intentions.
I usually write this blog based on what I’m learning in the Bible each week.
I can’t do that this time.
I haven’t been in the Word.
(Just being honest here.)
I blame my sickness.
Now, I believe you can legitimately blame a lot on Exploding Head Disease. That’s why my toilets were filthy, my hair was unwashed and my kids’ brains were started to go mushy from too many episodes of Daniel Tiger.
When can you ever excuse ignoring someone who loves you, cares about your well-being, and offers comfort, joy, protection and Life?
Hannah, dear, there is no excuse.
Josh and I have will have been married 10 years this week. (Hooray for us!)
But those weekly dates that the “How to Have a Great Marriage” articles endorse are a figment of Someone Who Doesn’t Have Toddlers’ imagination.
At least in our case.
We have not been intentional about dates with each other or with our kids.
It’s hard, you know?
Life happens, and it’s busy.
But I would strangle Josh and/or curl up and die if he went and took a week or so off from speaking to me and spending time with me, even when that time is just tea on the porch or a movie after the kids go to bed.
Quality time together is important. It’s my love language, even.
I need it.
It sustains me and it sustains our marriage. We would be distant, distrustful and definitely falling out of love if we didn’t make spending time together a priority.
We would not survive without it.
My relationship with God is no different.
I’m not talking about legalistic gotta-read-the-Bible-‘cause-it’s-the-right-thing-to-do time, here.
I’m talking about “I love God and He loves me and want to be with Him every moment I can” time.
I missed Him this week.
I was off without Him.
I need time in His Word and in prayer. Every. Single. Day. Of. My. Life.
Intentionality is required.
Life will get away from us if we’re not careful.
We won’t spend enough time with our kids.
We won’t date our spouses.
We won’t exercise.
We won’t grow closer to the Lord.
We will watch too much TV.
We will lose touch with friends.
We will get our lives all out of order.
And above all and most important, we will forget that the God of the Universe loves us and, for some crazy reason, wants to spend time with us.
What an opportunity!
Let’s not miss it, friends.
It won’t be easy.
But it absolutely will be worth it.
What about you? Where do you struggle to be intentional?
Hannah, every time I read your blog I am inspired, touched, and encouraged! Thank you so much for letting God work in your heart!
Thank you, Kathryn! I appreciate you reading and commenting. I am so thankful that God can use what’s happening in my life to encourage others. Please keep in touch and let me know if I can every pray for you. God bless!
When I saw that picture of Edy, I could immediately see you in her cute little face!
Congratulations on 10 years! Our anniversary was yesterday!
We are the same when it comes to failed good intentions on taking our kids out on individual dates. We were just talking about it last night. With your encouragement, I’ll try again!
That’s funny. Most people say she looks like Josh. I can’t see it either way. She just looks like Edy to me. 🙂
I don’t know why it’s so hard to plan those dates. I don’t feel like we’re even that busy. It just takes so much planning ahead, which, apparently, I am not very good at.
As always, thanks for reading.
So true, Hannah! Thank you for the timely reminder….again. 🙂
And thank you. I miss seeing you. It’s just not right only seeing you in passing. Another thing I need to be intentional about: loading up the banshees and coming to say hi. 🙂
There is no question that I get busy and God somehow gets pushed to the bottom of the list. So sad because I know it’s my MOST important relationship & that ALL my relationships suffer when I’m not seeking God first! So how does that happen? How do I let my most important relationship take last place? But…it seriously helps me to know that this happens to others too! Thanks Hannah;)
I’m glad we all can relate on this stuff. It’s no use just struggling in silence. I did that for way to long, and it’s not healthy. (Maybe airing my problems on the internet for everyone to read is not healthy either, but it sure feels better!)
It helps me to remember that yes, life is just busy and we are imperfect creatures who tend to forget, but also that we have an enemy warring for our soul. It is not in his best interest for us to be growing closer to the Lord. When I think about it that way, it gives me a little more zeal to keep going and live life with my mission in mind and an enemy to defeat.
Thanks, as aways, for reading and commenting, Nanci. God bless you and your beautiful family!
Thanks Hannah for a most important reminder.
I am glad your face did not explode and you did not die. 🙂
And I am thankful for that too. 🙂 Thanks for reading and commenting, Susie. 🙂
Oh, and Happy Anniversary!!! Ten years is an achievement!
Each blog I read inspires me in different ways. Thank you, I don’t know how to put what I feel into words like you do 🙂
Thank you, Emily. I am so grateful that God can use my stuff to encourage someone else. He is so good. 🙂