Sanctification and a Whole Lotta Snot

I have a pretty active imagination, I think. So when I concocted a family getaway to the marvelously fantastic Silver Dollar City last weekend, visions of singsong road trips, happy bonding and riotous laughter swirled romantically through my noggin.

How blessed my children must feel to have parents who love them so much! They’ll always be able to look back on their childhood with such happy memories! How grateful they’ll be! What a legacy of fun we will leave…

And I was obviously confused.

At one point we walked past another family just in time to hear a father lose it with his most likely very annoying preteen son (because what kid isn’t annoying around age 11?) And though I think we can agree that the guy could have done a better job controlling his temper, especially in public, I heard Josh sympathetically mutter to no one in particular, “I know the feeling, buddy.”

It started with the standard road trip complaints:

“How much longer until we get there?”

“I want more snacks, and not that kind. I don’t like that kind.”

“Why does she get to pick the movie?”

Whine. Complain. General discontent.

But, hey, they should be delightful little angels once we get to the park, right?

Heh.

“Why does she get to ride in the stroller and I have to walk?

(Same child, five minutes later) “Why do I have to walk and she gets to ride in the stroller?”

“I don’t wanna share my chicken strips!”

“This (impressive live band comprised of individuals talented enough to be featured at an internationally-renowned theme park) is boring! I want ride more kid rides. When do we get to go on the teacups?

And here’s what I learned:

I am trying waaay to hard to impress my children.

Less than five minutes after this picture was taken, three out of five of us were crying. I bet you can't guess who those three were.

Less than five minutes after this picture was taken, three out of five of us were crying. I bet you can’t guess who those three were.

There is nothing wrong with taking your kids to visit a theme park. But visiting a theme park under the assumption that my children are going to praise my name because I paid a lot of money, packed a lot of bags and provided for their every need is expecting maybe a tad too much.

I don’t know about your kids, but mine aren’t bursting with rosy-cheeked natural gratefulness.

The more I give the more they seem to expect me to give.

Sigh.

The Debbie Dissatisfieds strike again (and strike early.)

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But we knew this was coming, didn’t we?

God had the wisest man on earth write it down for us way back in the olden days, just in case we hoity-toity Americans got in in our silly heads that our children were inherently good and not under the same pesky sin-curse as the rest of us.

Solomon must have recently been around a few kiddos when he penned Proverbs 22:15, “Folly is bound up in the heart of a child…”

And, unfortunately, the rest of the verse says what we parents have got to do about it.

“But the rod of discipline will drive it far from him.” (Proverbs 22:15b)

So….

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I didn’t intend on this being a blog about the “rod of discipline,” but goodness knows, with all that’s been in the news lately I’m likely to get someone riled up just mentioning it.

I won’t address the spanking vs. non-spanking issue that people just love to spat about today, but I will say that Matt Walsh said it best this week. Read that and take it up with him if you want someone to be mad at (or God, he’s the one that came up with this whole discipline business.)

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Parenting is surely one of the fastest tracks to sanctification that God ever devised.  

When else are we expected to deal with humans who still routinely lick the water fountain but also somehow think they should be in charge, regularly tell us no, destroy our tidy homes, wipe snot on us, suck our funds, keep us up all night, complain about the delicious home-cooked meals we serve them and then expect us to lovingly tuck them in, get them a cool drink and read them a bedtime story?

My living room. Case in point, friends.

My living room. Case in point, friends.

To parent well (and I’m not saying I’m an expert), we need more than we have in ourselves.

We need Jesus. We need grace. We need forgiveness. We need a muzzle on our mouths. We need each other. We need prayer. We need wisdom. We need God every moment of every day.

‘Cause if foolishness is a child’s au natural response to life, then Mom and Dad are the first line of defense.

We’ve got a job to do, parents, and it ain’t gonna be easy.

But God is using this to make something better out of us and out of them.

“Discipline your son, and he will give you peace; he will bring delight to your soul.” Proverbs 19:17.

It’s not easy, but it’s worth it.

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*I want (and need) to hear parenting success stories today, folks! Encourage this exhausted momma and any others reading that the discipline really is worth it!

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  1. Laura said:

    Never have I so fully appreciated the cultivation of discipline in my little ones as I have over the past few months. I have been given the opportunity to see up-close the damage that comes to a little human who is left with no discipline and no consistent follow-through with consequences. It is a thankless and exhausting task, and you may not see the fruit of it until your children are teens or adults, but believe me it is one of the most important things that you can give to your children. I recently read an article written by a psychologist that outlines the importance of teaching your children to overcome their innate bent toward selfishness. Selfishness is the root of SO many problems that we see in our society. Don’t give up on the discipline, because it ultimately leads to happy and healthy adulthood. It is a gift that parents give to their children–and it is worth the sacrifice! Here is a link to the article I referenced above: http://www.maritalhealing.com/conflicts/selfishchildren.php

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    1. Hannah Post author said:

      Great article, Laura! Thank you for sharing! You are an inspiration!

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  2. karen lipford said:

    Bless your heart. I had the same type experience last weekend as we drove to a lake for my Uncle’s 60th bday party. The lake my kids grew up camping at, the lake we had NOT been to in 2 years. kids are now 19,15 and 12. the 19 yr old did not go with us to the party but my other two could NOT remember much at all about our many camping trips to this particular lake. the one we camped at, MY grandparents camped at, bday uncle and familly camped at. ALL THE TIME MONEY AND PLANNING OF FUN BONDING TIME……..forgotten. seriously? I too wonder why we try so hard sometimes. we had season passes for 2 years to silver dollar city,
    the kids were little and i wouldnt trade it for anything……but not a lot of fond memories are still floating around in their heads. we indeed had “the rod” literally my dad carved and engraved scripture passges into it. i used it a lot. and i am glad i did and now that my almost 20 yr old is out of the house and i see some of his friends’ choices……i’m cashing in on God’s promises. he’s not perfect, none of us are, but at least he’s been taught. hang in there. houses will be clean when kids move out. enjoy the mess and don’t rush it away.

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    1. Hannah Post author said:

      Thank you, Karen! I need to hear other people’s stories and how they turned out, especially when God’s faithfulness is so absolutely evident through it all. He will be faithful to his promises. I need to hear that. Thanks for sharing. 🙂

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